Listening to the Wisdom of Children

As adults, we often try to understand children by discussing, analyzing and researching them from our perspective. But the truth is, we are not children. We may remember what it felt like to be young, and some of us might even maintain a sense of childlike wonder, but that doesn’t mean we truly understand the younger generation. To genuinely connect with and understand children, we need to let go of our preconceived notions, ask thoughtful questions, and most importantly, listen with an open heart and mind.

However, even when we ask questions, they’re often loaded with expectations or timed to fit our agenda. We may miss the answer entirely or not be clear on what we are really asking. Listening to children requires more than hearing their words—it requires a willingness to set aside our own filters and truly absorb their perspective.

I recently watched a powerful TED talk given by a 13-year-old boy. At first, I was skeptical about what a child could offer in terms of life wisdom. But once I let down my guard and listened, I realized he was sharing something incredibly valuable: the simple, yet profound wisdom of children. He distilled “it” down to the basics—children want to be happy and free to explore their interests and potential.

What struck me most was his observation that some children don’t even know what happiness is, yet they instinctively know they want it. This resonated deeply with me, as it reflects a universal human truth.

As adults, we would do well to listen. Truly listen to what children are trying to tell us.

In his talk, the boy outlined eight principles of happiness, and as I reflected on them, I realized that these are the very things we, as adults, also seek in our lives. The eight principles are:

1. Exercise

2. Diet and Nutrition

3. Time in Nature

4. Contribution and Service

5. Relationships

6. Recreation

7. Relaxation and Stress Management

8. Religious and Spiritual Practice

Many of us are moving so fast through life that we overlook these essential pillars of well-being. We may understand their importance intellectually, but rarely do we take the time to fully embrace them.

Perhaps it’s time to take a lesson from this 13-year-old and slow down. Focus on what truly matters. Be intentional about creating space for happiness in your daily life. His “cheat sheet” is a wonderful guide—it offers a simple framework that we can all follow. I challenge you to reflect on these principles and fill in the blanks for yourself. What will lead you towards a happier, more inspired life?

If you’re curious about the TED talk that inspired these reflections, you can watch it here.